Often, people are taken aback when I ask. They aren't prepared to share their MOST valuable advice. They turn their head to the side, sigh, and ponder the question. And sometimes, I get a great answer...and sometimes, I get a shoulder shrug followed by, "Work hard." "Forgive." "Hug them more."
While these answers are good, they don't really satisfy my insatiable need for insight into the human life. While thinking about this the other day (while cleaning up the 8th spill of the day), it occurred to me that I wanted to answer this question about motherhood--for myself, and for others if they are interested. Not merely advice. But what is it about?
What is motherhood?
Motherhood is feeling desperate for a break or to get away from your young, dependent child, yet knowing that if you do "get away" even for a few hours, you'll miss something. Or, you'll just miss them.
Motherhood is being exhausted, but never sleeping the same again!
Motherhood is gladly enforcing punishments and consequences. Motherhood is dreading having to be the "enforcer."
Motherhood is letting your toddler drink from a cup because he or she insists, and
Motherhood is wanting the independence you once had before you had your kids, but feeling like a superhero when you are the only person who can kiss a boo boo and make it better.
Motherhood is falling in love with your spouse all over again when you see them with your children, but often being too tired to show it.
Motherhood is a different body, where imperfections are no longer imperfections. They are memories and represent life. (Don't believe me? Wait until your child learns that they came from your belly. Look at the wonder in their eyes.) Your body is beautiful.
Motherhood is the constant battle between fixing the problem right away, or teaching a lesson. Giving in to what your toddler wants versus giving them what they need.
Motherhood is knowing that you are spending all of your time and energy on teaching, growing, shaping this little person that will eventually leave you and build a life apart from you.
Motherhood is laughing and crying in the same sentence from exhaustion, feeling overwhelmed, or just feeling like you have no idea what you are doing.
Motherhood is still getting out of bed to take care of kids, run carpool, and make lunches when you have the flu.
Motherhood is crying about things that haven't happened yet. Graduations, first days of school, the day they are too old to be rocked....silly emotions.
Motherhood is doing whatever it takes to get them to sleep. Seriously....sleep.
Motherhood is relentless. At EVERY stage. Whether you're nursing for every two hours. Or you're telling your toddler
Motherhood is the bliss found in the first moments, the long awaited moments, and the still moments. When you look at your child's face and you have time to study it. Or, when your child does something and you are reminded that you are not failing. That this person you're raising is taking the form of the person you hope them to be someday.
Motherhood is a whole new set of hours, and a whole new set of priorities.
Motherhood is never realizing how much your mom loved you until you have kids of your own.
Motherhood kissing the back of their neck and soaking that smell in. Knowing that their giggles won't last forever. Drinking in the moments and slowing down to enjoy the little people that they are becoming.
Motherhood is beautiful.
What is motherhood to you?
Make sure to hug a mom this Mother's Day--especially if her husband is deployed!
For all the moms out there, Happy *almost* Mother's Day. May you have a day of no diapers, relaxation, appreciation, and sleeping in! (Or whatever suits your fancy!)